Motherhood is Not the End of Your Dreams
Before I was a mom I thought that I had to accomplish everything I wanted to do before I had children. I mean, once I would become a mom, where would I find the time? Which is a valid thought, right? This is probably the main reason why I waited so long to have kids and still debated even having children. Not only would having a child take away time and effort from myself but it would also tie me to another human being for the rest of my life. Scary thought, huh? I thought so and for that main reason I waited until I was almost 30 to have a child and for the first 6 months of my pregnancy was weighed down by a huge sense of anxiety and fear.
It wasn’t until I had my son that I realized that my life and dreams weren’t over, yet enriched byanother human being to help drive my motivation. It is funny looking back now the person I was before becoming a mom seemed so narrow minded and now my horizons have broadened greatly. It wasn’t until holding my son in my arms that I realized my dreams weren’t over, instead they had became so much greater. When I first had my son I truly was overwhelmed but driven all at once. I couldn’t imagine how I was going to do it all. I wanted to but wasn’t quite sure how to juggle it all. Yet, just like everything else in my life I made adjustments and a plan on how to get it all done. There were definitely some learning curves along the way and I think there still will be but I know that I can accomplish anything with a level headed approach.
As a working mom I have to juggle motherhood, work, being a wife, taking care of my household and also going to school full time. Oh yeah and also fit in there some time for myself. Some of my childless and fellow mommy friends ask how do I do it. My reply is always, I am not quite sure but I make it happen. I always offer up my key tips on how to make your dreams and goals still achievable,while still being a mom. So I figured I would share a few of them with you.
I think this is one of the most important tips for anyone, whether you’re amom or not. Being able to manage your time accordingly, helps to make all the things you want possible. For instance, if I am going out to grocery shop and have others things I can accomplish. I make a list and coordinate my tripbased on the most efficient use of my time. That way I can get the most accomplished in the shortest amount of time. With only 24 hours in a day, it is vital to utilize your time the best you can.
I know it is crazy so many people talk about this and for a long time I didn’t understand but I get it. Visualizing what you want is key to being able to implement a plan that will work. This process helps create a visual approach at seeing your goal and aiming for it. I make mine and put them in my closet next to my mirror in the door. That way every morning when I get up andget dressed I have that there to remind me of what I am doing it all for.
This to me is the absolutely key to not just your dreams but to life. All too often people let the negative weight them down and that can be draining. So I tend to always look at the glass half full instead of half empty. The key is to always find a silver lining to everything. If something bad happens think to yourself, what can I learn from this or why did this happen? Being able tothink positive and made good out of bad is the key to success in all aspects in life.
Now, let me not forget to mention that with the growth of being a mom came the transition of my dreams into something much more complex. My dreams took on a new meaning. I wasn’t achieving things now just for myself. I was achieving them to help show my child that anything is possible. This is not to say that I don’t sacrifice to make my dreams still possible, on top of being a mom and taking care of my household. However, these sacrifices are worth it to one day being able to look at my child and explain how anything is possible. Self-sacrifice can be a driving force in making your dreams possible, not just for yourself but for you child as well. So lastly, I leave you with this thought: Make each day a journey and enjoy the ride, because it helps make each of us unique and strong in our own way.