7 Steps to Encourage Yourself

The easiest thing to do is lay in a pile and allow the sorrow to wash over you & stay in that frame of mind. I’m here to tell you that, YES…Do that, well part of it. Allow yourself to feel the emotions, open up yourself to feel the hurt, the disappointment, the stress but don’t stay in that state.

I know you’re saying Trezelle, that’s easy for you to say...You don’t understand.

Take it from me, I’m a single mother… I have been divorced, I’ve had miscarriages, I’ve had the rug pulled out from under me so many times I cannot count! Trust me honey. I get it! I have had most of the same questions you do, I’ve cried just like you, I’ve been depressed. And I’m still going through it. Our story may be different but I understand & I hold space for you.

My only support is sometimes emotional from family & friends. I’m trekking through life, getting to know myself, doing my best to be mindful of other people & just working on being a great mom.

Life is a journey, a journey that sometimes feels like it has more hurdles than peaks, but I promise you three things, three things that I know to be true:

  • When you change your mindset you will change your life

  • Tough times don’t last, but tough people do

  • What you believe is what is true

All that is wrong, will eventually be made right. Choose to believe that. I read this quote recently that said “whether you believe you’re strong enough to be an overcomer, or you think you’re too weak, you’re right." That simply demonstrates how important your thoughts are. What are the things you’re thinking about your situation? Strength isn’t something you’re born with, strength is born from struggle & friction, & becomes apparent through discipline & dedication. Disciplined enough to know that giving up is not an option, dedicated enough to never give up. Don't get me wrong, I have thought of giving up so many times. I am not superhuman, sometimes this is a hard pill to swallow but you got this!

Encouragement doesn’t just come, you have to work for it. You have to be intentional about wanting whatever situation you’re in to get better. Believe in your mind that things will get better, work towards it and it will happen. You have to intentionally tell yourself things that will empower & motivate you! So do me a favor, follow these steps below. Do the assignment & comment to tell me how it makes you feel. You can do this momma, just remember you have a whole tribe of #mother rooting for you.

Step 1: Allow yourself to feel your emotion.

  • Assignment: Write down what you’re feeling, all of it.

Step 2: Be honest with yourself about how your situation is but never see it worst than it is.

  • Assignment: Create 3-5 “I am” motivational affirmations and hang it where you visit most.

  • Assignment: Create a playlist with 10+ songs that uplifts & motivate you.

Step 3: Be intentional about what you would like life to be.

  • Assignment: Write down how much better life would be if you didn’t have your current struggle.

  • Assignment: Write down what emotions it will raise in you.

Step 4: Figure out how you can change it.

  • Assignment: Is this situation something within your hands that you can change?

Step 5: Take initiative, take the first steps to change.

  • Assignment: Write down five steps to change/make it better. Utilize your resourcefulness.

Step 6: Find people who are on the same journey with you, immerse yourself in those peoples.

  • Assignment: Search FB for groups of women who are going through the same things you are. Build a tribe of women/men who you can draw support from.

Step7: Remember to celebrate yourself, remember to be patient with yourself, remember to take care of you!

  • Assignment: What are some things that make you happy or draws out feelings of contentment in you? Put those things in your schedule to do. Do it twice a week or more.  

  • Assignment: When was the last time you celebrated you? You know what? Put down the phone, step away from the computer and have a dance party for yourself! You rock! Always remember that. You’ve come really far and I’m proud of you for it.