Meet a #Mother - Katie Rose Decoeli
Please introduce yourself and tell us about your family.
My name Is Katie-Rose Decoeli and I am a mom living in a small seaside town with my husband, Rob, our son, Aubrey, who is almost 3 (can't believe it) and soon-to-be arriving baby girl. Oh and we have a crazy Amstaff dog named Zeus.
What are three daily things you can’t live without?
A good cup of tea (blame the British in me), at least one snuggle and kiss from my son, and a sweet of some sort.
If you could go back and visit yourself the year you became a mom, what would you tell yourself? What kind of encouragement or wisdom do you wish you had at that time?
It's not all as big of a deal as you think it is. I was living with my parents for the first bit of Aubrey's life because we were in the middle of a move and Rob was living 3 hours away for work. I felt all alone, as I didn't want to ask for help. Now I look back and see that A. I should have asked for more help but B. Those weekday nights with Aubrey alone for the first 6 months of his life have created such a bond between us. It wasn't a big deal and I should have taken it in more when it was happening instead of fretting about it.
What is something you strive to be intentional about? As a mother, how do you accomplish that in your day-to-day?
I am a worry-wart and drama queen by nature so I need to intentionally make myself aware of my emotions. As a mom, I have seen first hand how worried your child will become when your emotions get too strong. They worry. So, I make sure I keep my irrational dramatic thoughts tucked away and always search for the positives.
What does your daily routine look like? Is there any one thing that you check off your list that makes your day a success?
My day-to-day is all over the place. It usually starts with Aubrey and I having a quiet morning getting ready for daycare (Rob works a lot of early mornings), a chat with my mom on the way home from dropping him off....Work in the middle, whether is blog posts, meetings in the city, or contracts for my part time job, and ending in a dinner together as a family and some good ole TV. Very boring most of the time, but I like boring. We live in a small village that only comes alive with the warm weather. Slowly the TV/snuggle time is being traded in for backyard fires and outside family time playing fetch with Zeus. But You know what? I wouldn't have it any other way.
What has been your best #mothermoment?
I have a lot to be proud of for #mothermoments as I'm sure most moms do. I can't choose just one. Hearing my son always using his manners makes me so proud. Having given birth was also pretty huge hahaha, but I am glad I have forgotten it in time for this one. Aubrey makes me proud on the daily and shows me we are doing a great job so my #mothermoments are made of a whole bunch of little moments.
What was the worst? How did you handle it?
I have a temper, and when that temper gets out of control, I would have to say its the worst. I watched a video recently on Facebook of a father reacting sternly to a son drawing on the walls. Then they show the son playing with a friend and she did something he didn't like, so he reacted with the same force his father did. It wasn't abusive by any means, but raising your voice for the small things is so unneeded. It really opened my eyes. We have always explained to Aubrey why things are right and wrong when we catch him doing something bad but as parents we make mistakes. It's a hard job that can get to you and builds up. When that volcano erupts, which it does with all of us, its crappy and unnecessary for our little innocent kids who truly don't know any better.
What is your mother motto?
'Let the good outweigh the bad'. Aubrey is a very hyper child to the point someone tried to tell me he had ADHD at age 2. This means that there a lot of challenging moments but, he is also the sweetest who always says I love you, asks for cuddles, and wants a ton of kisses. Even if the day was a total disaster, those precious moments that may have only made up 1/20 of the day outweigh the other 19/20 of the day.
If you had a day to yourself how would you spend it & why?
Oh my.....On a warm beach, with a good book, and unlimited mojitos. I would love to have time to read, no timeline when on a beach and I mean, who doesn't love Mojitos? even if they are virgin.
If you could share one thing with our community of mothers, what would it be?
I'd love to tell you all that whether your married or rocking motherhood on your own, you're not alone in any situation that you may feel you are in. Every time I get personal on Wild Rosebuds, I get a flood of emails and comments of moms going through the same thing. It may seem so catty of a community, but I am always shocked with the out pour of love when you really need it. From miscarriages, to divorce or splitting up, you will always have someone there who's been in your shoes willing to lend an ear. You just need to be open enough to talk about it.